Reading Noah Kagan’s Million Dollar Weekend and he suggests the idea of having ‘Rejection Goals’. I love it – and have created a spreadsheet to start tracking this. Some quotes:
- “Rejection is a test if you really want something. The upside of asking is unlimited.”
- “People are afraid of asking. The people who make it happen are willing to ask, be rejected, and keep going.”
- “Then I remind myself of Rejection Goals: “This is going to suck. Let me aim to get at least twenty-five rejections.” That”
Reminded of this anecdote from Chris Dixon’s ‘If you aren’t getting rejected on a daily basis, your goals aren’t ambitious enough.’
My most useful career experience was about eight years ago when I was trying to break into the world of VC-backed startups. I applied to hundreds of jobs: low-level VC roles, startups jobs, even to big tech companies. I got rejected from every single one. Big companies rejected me outright or gave me a courtesy interview before rejecting me. VCs told me they wanted someone with VC experience. Startups at the time were laying people off. The economy was bad (particularly where I was looking – consumer internet) and I had a strange resume (computer programmer, small bootstrapped startups, degree in philosophy and mathematical logic).
The reason this period was so useful was that it helped me develop a really thick skin. I came to realize that employers weren’t really rejecting me as a person or on my potential – they were rejecting a resume. As it became depersonalized, I became bolder in my tactics. I eventually landed a job at Bessemer (thanks to their willingness to take chances and look beyond resumes), which led to getting my first VC-backed startup funded, and things got better from there.
One of the great things about looking for a job is that your “payoff” is almost always a max function (the best of all attempts), not an average. This is also generally true for raising VC financing, doing bizdev partnerships, hiring programmers, finding good advisors/mentors, even blogging and marketing. I probably got rejected by someone once a day last week alone. In one case a friend who tried to help called me to console me. He seemed surprised when I told him: “no worries – this is a daily occurrence – we’ll just keep trying.” If you aren’t getting rejected on a daily basis, your goals aren’t ambitious enough.
https://www.rejectiontherapy.com/100-days-of-rejection-therapy
Oh, and, this anecdote:
The ceramics teacher announced on opening day that he was dividing the class into two groups. All those on the left side of the studio, he said, would be graded solely on the quantity of work they produced, all those on the right solely on its quality. His procedure was simple: on the final day of class he would bring in his bathroom scales and weigh the work of the “quantity” group: fifty pound of pots rated an “A”, forty pounds a “B”, and so on. Those being graded on “quality”, however, needed to produce only one pot – albeit a perfect one – to get an “A”.
Well, came grading time and a curious fact emerged: the works of highest quality were all produced by the group being graded for quantity. It seems that while the “quantity” group was busily churning out piles of work – and learning from their mistakes – the “quality” group had sat theorizing about perfection, and in the end had little more to show for their efforts than grandiose theories and a pile of dead clay.
A big part of this is expectations management and being fine with batting 20%! Abundance of SWINGS mindset:
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I’ll jot down a follow up based on this moment of rejection-inspiration soon…
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